Has your sex life become too familiar and routine? Do you find yourself performing the same missionary position sex once a week like clockwork? Chances are that if you have been with the same partner for more than a year or two, things in the bedroom have become a little stale, a little predictable. So here are some helpful hints to throw off your routine and add some excitement back into your sex life.
Get out of the bedroom.
Sure that mattress is all squishy and big, but it’s boring! Take your love making into an unexpected room. Maybe into the kitchen for some hot monkey love on your kitchen table? Maybe it’s time your man took you on the plush carpeting of your living room floor? Maybe you need to take a blanket deep into the woods and get natural in nature? You decide. Make sex fun, make it unexpected.
Really. The fun thing about this little act of naughtiness is that you can call your man or woman at work and start the foreplay early. Just make sure you’re not on speakerphone. Talk dirty during sex too. Tell your lover what you are going to do and how you’re going to do it. Avoid proper names of penis and vagina, we’re going for those words that some consider…naughty. C’mon, talk dirty and mean it.
This is fun. You meet a stranger for drinks in a shadey bar. You flirt and trade tall tales. You end up closing the bar. You end up going to a hotel room and having hot, hot sex on the floor, then on the bed, then on the floor again. You laugh because you realize, this hot lover is your boyfriend of three years. You get the idea. Role playing is a fun way of having sex with your trusted partner but pretending that perhaps it’s someone else.
Knowledge is power
Think you know everything about sex? Wrong. Get a book about sex to go over the basics or to refine a technique. You can buy The Low Down on Going Down: How To Give Her Mind-Blowing Oral Sex or Blow Him Away: How to Give Him Mind-Blowing Oral Sex. Hey, if you’re going to do something well, shouldn’t you seek perfection? Absolutely.
Toys for big people
Consider the sex toy. It can be anything from a vibrator that your man uses on you to a phallic ring that is designed to pleasure you both simultaneously. You can even buy Dirty Dice that you roll and then have to perform some sort of naughtiness depending on what the die says. Make sex fun!
Get a makeover
Wouldn’t it be great if your husband shaved his beard and came home to you wearing a new suit? Would he maybe look like someone new and different as he kissed you and slowly unbuttoned your clothing while kissing you? What if you dyed your hair and got a sexy outfit to wear while having a pre-coital dinner? Look different, feel different, shake up your sex life.
Watch sexy movies
No, not porno movies, that’s too easy. I’m talking about movies that sex you up and make you want to jump your partner during the closing credits. Movies like: Sex, Lies and Videotape, Like Water For Chocolate, Mr. and Mrs. Smith, and The Notebook.
Get In Shape
Work out at the gym and do aerobic exercises several times a week. Eat right and get plenty of sleep. Staying physically fit is one of the best ways to maintain a healthy sex life, maybe you’ve been slipping lately?
Use the element of surprise to you sexual advantage! Surprise your man by wearing sexy lingerie. Surprise your woman by giving her a long, sensual massage before you have sex. Use your imagination and the knowledge you have of your mate to surprise them in a sexy and scintillating way to spice up your sex life.
The Hot Tub
There is nothing sexier than a hot tub! Hot, bubbly water, being naked in the water with your lover, two glasses of champagne or wine, and perhaps the moon and the stars overhead. While hot tub sex may take some practice, again, is there anything else worth practicing more than good, hot sex? Nope.
Whatever you decide to improve your sex life, make it fun, make it friendly, make it hot and make it passionate.